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What makes you acceptable by everyone you meet? Answers are given out by some peoples. Just read...!

Here are some ideas

Make eye contact with people and truly smile -you can communicate more effectively with the eye and a beautiful smile at times more than words can ever do.

Be brave and confident. A lot of people are riddled with self doubt. People are scared to take the first step. So display confidence and bravery. Be the first to talk and take action in tense situations. Doing this will free others to take action too and they'll like you for it.

Be passionate about something - why is Steve Jobs and Elon so likable? They've got crazy beliefs that spreads to everything they do. Don't live without a purpose. Find something to strongly believe in, it will show in your behavior.

Put away your phone - when you press your phone in a conversation. You are insulting the person that they are not important. People don't like people that insults them.

Be respectful but don't try to please - hard truth is that everyone can't like you. It's just the same way everyone can't like a movie or a product or a website. Some will like you and others won't. So don't try to make anyone like you, instead just respect everyone and do your thing.

Be open minded - in my opinion only fools argue and refuse to learn. Ironically, no one likes fools. So try to be open minded, refuse to argue and try to see things from others perspective. Ask questions and listen.

Ask people for little favors - it looks cheesy but when someone does you a favor. They kinda like you for it. Just don't ask for too many favors, it will make you stink. Go with little favors.

Use people's names all the time - you love hearing your name don't you?

Give compliments and acknowledgementsDon't be the buzz kill - stop being the constant whiner and energy sucker. Andstop frowning and complaining. The world is bigger than whatever problems you are having now. So when you are around people, put on a positive body language, or stay and whine at home.

Have fun with people life is too short and we'll all be dead soon. Enjoy with people while you still can. Everyone likes people who knows how to have fun. Laugh, share your stories and have a great sense of humor.

Accept and empathize with people - there is nothing more wrong than expecting people to conform to your wishes. Stop it. Accept people for who they are. Treat each person differently. Don't treat a nerd like a Psychologist. People have distinct personalities, accept each person and treat them accordingly.

Be reliable - it goes without saying right? We all love that friend who is always there for us.Being likable is all about the behaviors. You can have the behaviors and still be rotten underneath. You'll be likable but you'll be fake. Instead, try to be a good person. Try to be original.Lastly, love yourself. Because there is no point in not doing so.

P.S - I just made an email course about being social and charismatic.You can check it out hereif you are interested.

Diane Meriwether

Applying preschool teacher tactics 

In my work with process groups I see charismatic people all the time. I agree it's like a super power.

It's different than being social, even highly social.Certainly some charismatic people are social savants - like Bill Clinton - but that's incidental to their draw. I have also met charismatic people who are dark and negative, or who have little to say, I have even met some who are not terribly bright.

True Charisma
I'm running through a list in my mind and the common denominator for charisma is focus. Regardless of gender or circumstance, their energy is usually contained and moves with their will. Most of us bounce our attention all over the room - looking at others, thinking about what others are thinking about us, splitting our attention between what we are doing and what we are thinking. Charismatic people are whole-hearted. Even when they are distracted and distant they are wholly distracted - not apologetically half-trying to be polite like most of us.

Pseudo Charisma
I have met people who seem charismatic at first, but the effect fades. This second group seems to fulfill the traits given for the other answers here, they are friendly, positive, social and confident - so I'm not saying these qualities aren't useful, but they're regular powers not super-powers.

Akshay Kumar

Learner, Reader, Coder

It's a combination of a lot of things ranging from a confident body language to the ability to converse well, take stands, and being cheerful and of course the listening skills. I interact with a lot of people from varying fields and have been to numerous conferences and debates, there are certain things I observed over years which makes someone instantly likable:

1. Confident Body Language - Will you notice someone sneaking inside a room/party with a gloomy look and drooping shoulders? NO. Just a mere glance at them and you'll move on with the discussion you are having with your friend. Now imagine someone entering with a smile, nodding at a few acquaintances, with deep eyes and a stiff posture. There is an instant curiosity inside our head 'who's this guy?' and this is the first step towards being liked. Grabbing the attention. If you've attended any seminars on how to crack interviews you've heard that half the candidates lose it within 5 minutes because of their not so confident body language.
P.S. Grabbing attention in a positive way and not by the bold/loud clothing of lady gaga style.

2. Positive/Cheerful Attitude - Another great quality of instantly likable people is their cheerful nature. They pull a happy face, a mild smile and greet people with grace. They are pleasant to talk with and make you feel friendly and close. And they at times they themselves make an effort. Many a times we come across people making small 2 minute conversations and then moving on but the effect is everlasting. This is mostly because of the 'feel good' involved in that small conversation. A positive, indulging cheerful talk is what they've mastered.

3. Great Conversation Skills - Who wouldn't love a great speaker? The way we say things say a lot about our character in general. The most likable people are generally good orators, the phrase their sentences in such beautiful ways that it leave you awed. Whether it's about commenting on social stigmas or complementing someone for their achievement, they have their own way of saying it, a personal style.

4. Wit and Humor - Wit and humor is another quality which makes one instantly likable. Funny one liners and acceptable sarcasm is one of the most likable qualities. It makes an impact on the listeners, it gives a charm to the conversation, whatever small it might be, and leaves one asking for more.

5. Being a Good Listener - As mentioned in other answer they are good listeners, pay attention to what is being said, and connect to it. In any personal or group conversation, being a good listener shows they care and it makes you comfortable about their presence, it creates and impression that they are connected and understand, and this feeling is there, then there's nothing to stop them from being likable.

6. Ability to ask and indulge - Another important factor, they connect. They are very level headed and at times makes a conversation to indulge and makes themselves a part of the gathering. They ask questions, introduce themselves and include themselves like one of the group only, and this without any air of arrogance of imposing themselves, they become a part of the group.

7. Knowledge and Experience - Bingo!!  Not necessarily but intelligence and knowledge are some of the traits which generally wins over people's hearts. Words of experience and wisdom not only creates a good impression on people around you, but also makes them like you. As for me 'Intelligence is sexy!!"


8. Ability to connect with different kind of people - This is another very important factor. Now someone can be very likable among his peers in technical conferences but in other social situations they might act awkward and feel out of place. I've come across people who gels up instantly with every kind of people within minutes. Put them with teens and they can talk about soccer and girls, put them among bankers they can be grave listeners of financial crisis in Greece, put them with  women and they'll complement them on their dresses breaking the ice and asking questions about home and stuff. They are universally fit for any place and any situation.

Monideepa Sahu

People watcher.

I would add one vital caveat to the excellent answers here by Akshay Kumar and others.

To be liked, be good but do NOT be far better than average.

If you look too good, are too energetic and positive, and... heaven forbid, clearly above average in intelligence, people will feel uneasy around you no matter how sweet, helpful, witty and considerate you are.

Do not be threateningly capable, intelligent, good looking or successful. And if you are, then have equally glaring flaws.

You need to appear a flawed human, in order to be liked.

If you have strong principles, you will not be liked by all.

I'll end with a quote attributed to winston Churchill;
"You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life."

Edit : What I've written comes from my personal experiences of 61 years on this planet. I'm sorry if my answer doesn't sound like a ‘follow your dreams and live happily ever after’ fairy tale.

If a person is intelligent, successful, positive, happy in his/her own skin AND looks nice AND 20 years younger than his/her age , it makes enough people uneasy around them . It isn't necessarily jealousy or hatred. People feel that they can't match up , and shy away.

Having visible human flaws helps people relate to you better.

Bào Hà

Traveling the world to play and make videos of Basketball around the world.

I want to come across as humble as possible because arrogance serves no purpose, especially in answering your question.

What I can tell you is that I resemble the type of person that you describe. I am known as a social butterfly, as the person who knows everybody and everybody knows me, and I have been able to connect with a lot of strangers, especially when traveling and being in completely foreign environment. I have had some people who have told me in confidence months or years later after I met them that I actually intimidated them at first.

The first thing I can tell you is to read: How to Win Friends and Influence People: Dale Carnegie: 9780671027032: Books


Do not be deceived by the title. I was recommended this book years ago and I always thought that I don't need to learn how to make friends. I ended up buying the book years later because it was only 10$ and I told myself, why not. It's not that expensive. After reading a few pages, I was hooked and it improved my social skills even more.

So the secret? It is very simple. It basically boils down to one thing. Connecting.

Here is the two simple ways you can create a connection with almost anybody:

1. Be genuinely interested in the other person that you are talking to. 
Listening skills are important but no listening skills is enough if you are not genuinely interested to learn about the person you are talking to. Learn about who they are, what they like, what they are passionate about, let them talk and over time, you can learn how to gear a conversation in a certain way where you can not only find out what they like or what they are passionate about, you can also find out what the two of you have in common.

2. Be passionate.
I am a passionate person and I have learned over time what I am passionate about. When you speak passionately, that is attractive, even if people are not passionate about the same thing, if they have an ounce of respect for you, they will appreciate what you are passionate about. Combine that with #1, being genuinely interested in other people and listening to them actively, they will have a minimum level of care when you talk about your passions. The key here is not to ramble on about what you like but to get them to talk about their passions and find things where you can connect with them. Being genuinely interested in other people and being passionate goes hand in hand. It isn't necessarily a step by step guide but in general, if you are genuinely interested in other people, they will return the favour and take the time to listen to you when you talk about what you are passionate about. By sharing what you are passionate about, you open up and you are sharing something about you and that helps others open up as well.

This is the simplest way, the fundamentals, that I can give you to answer your question. Of course, a lot more can be said such as learning how to be a good storyteller and developing an acute social intelligence to know how to go from "hi" to hours of free flowing conversation by reading other people's body language (this can be tricky depending on different cultures), picking up on cues in the conversation to know how to lead a conversation without verbally dominating a conversation.

Anurup Chakraborty

an accidental engineer...

We all would agree to the fact that we all know some people who have this amazing ability to make friends with most people in the minimum time possible. I know a few people personally who possess this quality. From my observation, I found the following features that they have in them:

To be happy or sad is completely our choice. They have chosen to be happy and their happy disposition attracts a lot of people towards them.They don't talk non-sense. It may be that they will crack a joke or two, but they will make sure that it makes some sense at that particular situation. Even if they talk non-sense, it will surely have situational clauses associated with it and they are just trying to bring everything to normal.They will most importantly make you feel comfortable even at the most difficult situations of your life.


They will listen you when you will talk, and if you talk about your difficulties, they will hear it with patience and come out with some words that will enhance your spirits.They carry themselves well and always have a positive attitude towards life and problems associated with it and this is clear by their physical disposition.They will have an amazing charm (not necessarily good looking), that will envelop into an atmosphere of joy and happiness.


They will have the FEEL GOOD FACTOR always associated with their personality.And most importantly, they will make you feel great.


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